Killing Negative Thoughts

December 22, 2018 | Filed under: Uncategorized

We all fall prey to negative thoughts every once and a while, but some folks think about those thoughts constantly. Letting them control their lives and direction. The objective of this article is to give you some tools, or a system for getting rid of your Negative thoughts. Eventually conditioning yourself for positive expectations. 

Worksheets: In the space below:

Action Steps

  1. Identify Negative Thoughts you have about life, people, or wealth. List a few you believe. For example  I am not very smart. Or this is going to kill me financially. Here is one from my past.
  2. Use the Positive Replacement exercise to come up with 2 reason, for every one you think it is a bad event.

Example: Some event happens in your life. A death, a financial debt, job loss, or a loss of loved one, or illness. We immediately come up with how this is going to negatively affect your life. We lament. We get angry. We get upset. We get depressed. Or even worse.

For example, at one point in my life, I had 78k in debt (all credit card debt). And I could not make the payments. I was thinking:

  • I am screwed. I can’t pay the bills.
  • I am a failure.
  • How did I get myself in this shape.
  • I will never take a risk again.
  • Owning your own business sucks.
  • I am not as smart as I thought I was.
  • People will think badly of me.
  • I have failed my wife and kids.
  • I will be on the street soon.

All negative thoughts. I was pretty depressed and not very motivated. In fact, I actually had a few thoughts, about my life insurance policy. My family would be better off if I was dead. WOW. That is stupid.

Thank GOD, as those thoughts were rolling around in my head, the seed of an idea, I had read many years earlier, popped up. For every adversity in life, there is the seed of greater opportunity. That got me thinking. What is good about this situation. Chuck (Charles Givens) has this a strategy. For every negative you have to come up with 2 positives. Positive thought replacement of a negative thought.

So. What is GREAT about being 78k in Debt?

  • I know how to build credit. That can be useful in the future.
  • Successful people tend to take risks. To win the game you have to take some risk.
  • I had some good days in the business, what did i do on those days to make money.
  • It will be a good story some day.
  • At least I am not a 100k in debt. And I met a guy a million in debt which made my perspective shift a little. At least I was not 1 million in debt.
  • You know, what debt can be a good thing if it is GOOD debt. Borrowing to make money.
  • Maybe i should not be thinking I can’t make the payment, but how could I make the payment.
  • I have time to spend with my wife and kids.
  • I have time to change to improve my life.

Hey, those positive thoughts saved my life. Put me back on track. In fact, i started to look, how can i make a lot of money in short period of time. Actually moved me into the Real Estate game.

So. What event has happened to you. Or what thought do you have on a regular bases, that causes you pain, torment, or negative thoughts? Write it down below.

Negative Thoughts or EVENT:

Thought 1:

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Thought 2:

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Thought 3:

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(You are only allowed 3 JRight now) ‘

The next time this thought, event, or thoughts about the event creep in to my head, what can I do to interrupt the pattern? Perhaps: Stand up and change my physiology? Take a WALK. Go work out. Listen to a comedy routine. Plug in my Relaxation and Meditation audio (I created one—Session 21). And think about my Dreams, Goals, and Affirmations.

What could I do to interrupt the pattern?

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Ok. Now Try Positive Replacement.  Write why this event, problem or thought is GREAT! How can I use it. How can it inspire me. What is good about it.

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Perhaps I need to take this thought, and see the BELIEF behind it, and use the BREAKING a Belief system exercise?

What about that idea, of changing the meaning? A context or content reframe?Can I use that in this situation?

Context:How can this event have a Positive Long Term Meaning to me?

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Content Reframe:I am going to make the images dull, far away, lower sound, black and white, not a movie. Still frame. Distorting the image in my mind. Put behind me. And play the new movie over and over.

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